Big day for La

Yesterday was a challenge because La's birthday has to be approached with great sensitivity. Over the years we have underplayed it too much and more often, overplayed the day with upsetting results for poor old La.

Bear in mind she can't anticipate her special day so we break the news, in a nonchalant manner, the day before. On the day it's a tightrope between making her feel special and not letting her get so emotional with all the attention and treats that it all gets a bit much.

This year we gave her birthday kisses and cuddles and 2 gifts before she sent on her way to her usual routine and as soon as she was out of the door, the frenzied planning and cooking began to prepare a surprise party for her and seven nearest and dearest.

When she walked in at 4.30pm the fun began and continued for 5 hours until she fell asleep on the couch.

Highlights this year?

• Her delight at opening up her stuff
• The banana birthday cake with Belgian chocolate ice cream
• La's frequent bursts of applause, which we all joined in, in joyous celebration of the day.

At a time when a terrifying report is published about abuses in care homes I just pray that we can spend many more like this, all together.